skeemi valdkond, mille aluseks on äärmuslik teiste soovidele, tunnetele ja reaktsioonidele keskendumine iseenda vajaduste arvelt eesmärgiga saada armastust või heakskiitu, säilitada tajutud seotust või vältida kardetavat kättemaksu, An excessive focus on the desires, feelings, and responses of others, at the expense of one’s own needs in order to gain love and approval, maintain one’s sense of connection, or avoid retaliation., Selle valdkonna skeemid kujunevad sageli varases kasvukeskkonnas, mida iseloomustab tingimuslik aktsepteerimine: laps peab alla suruma enda jaoks olulisi aspekte selleks, et saada armastust, tähelepanu, heakskiitu. Sageli hõlmab see oma viha ja loomulike reaktsioonide allasurumist või vähest teadlikkust neist., (This domain) involves schemas related to deficits in the fulfillment of the basic universal need for self-directness. Such deficits lead to an excessive focus on the desires, feelings, and responses of others, at the expense of one’s own needs. This focus is driven by the need to gain love and approval, maintain a sense of connection or belonging, or avoid retaliation. These schemas usually involve a suppression or lack of awareness regarding one’s own emotions, needs, or wishes, and lead to difficulties in assertion or self-determination. They often emerge when children are brought up in an atmosphere of conditional positive regard or conditional acceptance: the child needed to suppress important aspects of the self in order to gain love, attention, or approval. In many cases, the parents’ emotional needs and desires – or social acceptance and status – were valued more than the unique needs and feelings of each child., Usually involves suppression and lack of awareness regarding one’s own anger and natural inclinations