üks sisemise kriitiku olekutest, milles esitatakse enda suhtes ebarealistlikult kõrgeid nõudmisi ja oodatakse nendele vastamist järeleandmisi tegemata. Tuntakse, et peab olema perfektne ja ei tohi olla spontaanne ega teha vigu, The Demanding Parent mode is the side of the patient that places almost impossible demands on him.This often takes the form of demands for achievement or success, but can also involve other types of demands, for example, a demand that a child sacrifice his own autonomy to take care of the parent. When in Demanding Parent mode, the patient experiences unrelenting pressure to push himself to succeed. Patients with this mode often believe that they need this side of themselves to push them to achieve, and fail to recognize the way in which this side can be crippling (p. 64), Continually pushes and pressures the child to meet excessively high standards. Feels that the only acceptable way to be is to be perfect and an overachiever, to keep everything in order, to strive for high status, to be humble, to put other 's needs before one's own, or to be efficient or avoid wasting time. The person feels that it is wrong to express feelings or to be spontaneous (p. 44)